When I first begun to share the secret of my childhood abuse and the events that followed, I was eager to read stories of other survivors and books about women who have been through the same struggles. This is a list of books I personally read and now recommend to those seeking insight. Please know these are affiliate links.
Hush: Moving From Silence to Healing After Childhood Sexual Abuse
Paperback – June 1, 2007
My beloved Christian counselor gave me this book to read about the time I revealed my secret of childhood sexual assault for the first. Reading this book was the first time I realized I was not alone. Reading this book gave me my voice.
As described on Amazon--Childhood sexual abuse is running rampant, yet it's the best kept secret in our nation today. Its victims grow into adulthood with their little child's heart trapped in the pain and torment of their past. Nicole Braddock Bromley shares her own story and the steps to moving from silence to healing. Hush exposes the harsh realities of childhood abuse, explains the pain it causes, examines the false beliefs it creates, and empowers survivors to begin a personal journey toward healing by breaking the silence.
With words of understanding and comfort, Nicole tells the real-life stories of those whose voices would otherwise never be heard. She is straightforward enough to pierce the hearts of those in a survivor's circle of influence, yet careful to tread lightly on what could be tender words.
SOAR: A Companion Workbook to “Hush” for Personal and Group Study Paperback
March 17, 2014
This book is the companion Bible study for Hush. It can be complete in a small group or individually.
Both a personal workbook and a group study guide, SOAR walks with you through the four major steps of moving from silence to healing:
S - Shattering the Silence
O - Overcoming Lies
A - Accepting Freedom
R - Reaching Out
In the seven sessions of this workbook companion to Hush: Moving from Silence to Healing after Childhood Sexual Abuse, Nicole helps you apply her teachings to your own personal circumstances and connects you with the support of a trusted group of survivors. By purchasing this book you will be given access to all of the SOAR group session videos, hosted by Nicole and featuring the inspiring stories of other survivors who have broken the silence and taken courageous steps forward on their healing journey by becoming part of this special community. (Amazon.com)
Mary DeMuth illuminates the way to go from shame-filled to joy-filled, from traumatized to finding enduring peace. This isn't theory. Mary has lived it. She traveled this path and offers a uniquely qualified, insider's view of the healing process.
You do not have to be forever marked by sexual abuse. (Not Marked back cover copy.)
Hope for the Broken.
From beloved author, storyteller, and prayer warrior Mary DeMuth, comes a heartfelt devotional combining stories, Scripture, and prayers to reveal God’s heart for broken and healing people.
Whatever your circumstance, Healing Every Day asks only that you come right where you are to begin a 90-day journey of restoration through the Bible to a healthier, more whole you. As you read Scripture from Genesis to Revelation, and as you allow these devotions to penetrate your heart, you will gain new insights into your past trauma and your hoped-for relief for your present and future joy.
Every day as you say yes to Mary’s question Mind if I pray for you, you will discover the God who loves you fiercely—right now. He longs to heal your hurting soul. He loves you. He is for you. And He’s waiting to meet you in all your broken places. (Amazon.com)
Author and advocate Mary DeMuth urges the church she loves to rise up and face the evil of sexual abuse and harassment with candor and empathy. Based on research and survivors’ stories, along with fierce fidelity to Scripture, DeMuth unpacks the church’s response to sexual violence and provides a healthy framework for the church to become a haven of healing instead of an institution of judgment.
In the throes of the #MeToo movement, our response as Christians is vital. God beckons us to be good Samaritans to those facing trauma and brokenness in the aftermath of abuse and provide safe spaces to heal. DeMuth advocates for a culture of honesty and listening and calls on the church to enter the places where people are hurting. In the circle of that kind of empathetic #WeToo community, the church must become what it’s meant to be—a place of justice and healing for everyone. (Amazon.com)
August 20, 2019
Jenn Greenberg was abused by her church-going father. Yet she is still a Christian. In this courageous, compelling book, she reflects on how God brought life and hope in the darkest of situations. Jenn shows how the gospel enables survivors to navigate issues of guilt, forgiveness, love, and value. And she challenges church leaders to protect the vulnerable among their congregations. Not Forsaken is not an easy read. But, perhaps today more than ever, it is a must-read. (Amazon.com)
January 15, 2019
This is a Bible study revised in 2019 and intended for small groups but can be completed individually. Like I did, many women hide the secret of abortion deep in their hearts and they are suffering severe consequences. They carry a great burden of shame and failure, afraid to reveal their hidden pain, and by doing so are forced to endure the long-lasting effects in isolation. Surrendering the Secret will allow women to release this burden and find freedom through 'redemptive community' while experiencing hope and joy, as shame and failure are replaced with beauty.
Author Pat Layton, founder and president of A Woman's Place Ministries, helps women find the path to healing through honest interactive Bible study, meaningful group experiences, and caring community.
Does your life feel like it's out of control? Perhaps you feel like you have to say yes to everyone's requests. Maybe you find yourself readily taking responsibility for others' feelings and problems. Or perhaps you focus so much on being loving and unselfish that you've forgotten your own limits and limitations. Or maybe it's all of the above.
This describes so many women survivors--people-pleasers with little to no boundaries. This is another book that changed my life.
Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend help you learn when to say yes and know how to say no in order to take control of your life and set healthy, biblical boundaries with your spouse, children, friends, parents, co-workers, and even yourself.
Now updated and expanded for the digital age, this book continues to help millions of people around the world answer these tough questions:
Can I set limits and still be a loving person?
What are legitimate boundaries?
How do I effectively manage my digital life so that it doesn't control me?
What if someone is upset or hurt by my boundaries?
How do I answer someone who wants my time, love, energy, or money?
Why do I feel guilty or afraid when I consider setting boundaries?
How do boundaries relate to mutual submission within marriage?
Aren’t boundaries selfish?
You don’t have to let your life spiral out of control. Discover how boundaries make life better today!
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